Montessori: Was It Supposed To Be This Hard?

Montessori was spoken of as light. A way of learning that was not forced but flowing. Children were to learn as naturally as they breathe. Maria Montessori, a doctor in Italy more than a hundred years ago, first saw this possibility when she worked with children who were dismissed by others as slow and incapable. Instead of pushing books into their hands, she gave them things to touch, things to move, things to feel. Beads that could be counted, letters carved on sandpaper, wooden towers that could be built one over the other. Slowly the children began to change. They started to concentrate, they began to speak, they showed abilities nobody had expected.

From that moment the Montessori method travelled across the world. Parents trusted it because it appeared to respect the child more than the system. The teacher was not the commander but the quiet guide. The child was not forced to memorise but was encouraged to discover. The classroom itself was not meant to be a race but a garden where each child grew in his or her own time.

That was the dream. The pink tower was not only wood, it was patience. The golden beads were not only numbers, they were understanding. The sandpaper letters were not only symbols, they were sound brought alive. Montessori was not about how quickly a child could finish an activity, it was about how deeply the child could enjoy it.

But what do we see today. The same beads are used to show how far a child can count. The same towers are seen as ladders of comparison. The same letters are turned into early report cards. Montessori was meant to give ease, but in practice it often becomes another test.

Parents are caught between hope and doubt. They chose Montessori believing it would give their child peace, yet they find themselves again measuring milestones. A child quietly stacks the pink cubes but the parent wonders whether he is ahead of his peers. The very system that promised freedom now looks strangely like another form of pressure.

The beauty of Montessori lies in its simplicity. But ambition has stolen that simplicity.

Freedom has been replaced by comparison

Joy has been replaced by pressure

Wonder has been replaced by targets

The question is not whether Montessori works. The question is whether we have allowed it to remain what it was meant to be. Can we step back and let children live at their own pace. Can we trust that a child’s curiosity is enough.

Montessori was never supposed to be hard. Oh, Infact Childhood itself was never supposed to be hard. Right? 

Wondered, Feared! What lies ahead of you? Do not… Here’s a solution.

Life's journey is not straight. We all definitely know it. It is a winding road, full of unexpected twists and turns, (like you can recall the last time you cried!). Sometimes, it feels like we're stumbling blindly into the unknown, unsure of what lies ahead.

Hey? But…

If you check on me, I have faced it more too. Just like you.

However, amidst uncertainties, there's ONE THING ✊ that has always provided me with a sense of grounding and peace:

That’s PRAYER. For me prayer is not wishing for anything, but it’s chanting his name and believing he’s always in me. ✊

For me, my faith lies in Shiva ✊. His presence in my life has been cheerful and appreciative during the happier times, and so is it a source of strength and comfort even during the toughest times.

I've come to believe that no matter what challenges we face or how uncertain the future may seem, prayer has a way of making things just a little bit easier. It's like a beacon of light cutting through the darkness, guiding us forward with each heartfelt plea.

Whether I'm seeking guidance? offering gratitude? or simply finding solace in his divine presence? Prayer has become my lifeline.

But prayer isn't exclusive to any one faith. It's a universal language that transcends religious boundaries. Whether you find comfort in Allah, Jesus, or any other deity, the power of prayer remains the same—a powerful force that connects us to something greater than ourselves.

What I've come to realize is that prayer isn't about changing the world around us; it's about changing our perspective. It's about finding peace and acceptance in the midst of chaos, and finding strength to face whatever comes our way.

What’s important in every point?

Staying peaceful. Yes?

If we are mindful of that, worrying liquidifies itself, and peace surrounds. Prayer or chanting sets the tone.

So as we navigate the uncertainties of life, let's not forget the power of prayer. Let's take comfort in the knowledge that we're not alone—that there's something greater watching over us, guiding us, and offering us a sense of peace in the midst of life's storms, but that force is inside me. We just have to speak to that force, be it what, but offering prayer. It responds. That works.

May we all find solace in prayer, and may it carry us through whatever challenges lie ahead.

🙏

For Our Happiness is Our Truth: Exploring the Essence of Prosperity in Ancient Vedic Prayers

Introduction

In the ancient Vedic tradition, the pursuit of truth was intrinsically linked to the attainment of happiness. Through profound prayers and invocations, the Vedic sages sought divine blessings to ensure their well-being and prosperity.

शं न॑: स॒त्यस्य॒ पत॑यो भवन्तु॒ शं नो॒ अर्व॑न्त॒: शमु॑ सन्तु॒ गाव॑: । शं न॑ ऋ॒भव॑: सु॒कृत॑: सु॒हस्ता॒: शं नो॑ भवन्तु पि॒तरो॒ हवे॑षु ॥

शं नः सत्यस्य पतयो भवन्तु शं नो अर्वन्तः शमु सन्तु गावः । शं न ऋभवः सुकृतः सुहस्ताः शं नो भवन्तु पितरो हवेषु ॥

This profound prayer invokes the blessings of the master of truth, symbolizing the importance of aligning ourselves with honesty and authenticity to find true happiness. The mention of horses and cattle signifies our connection with the natural world, acknowledging that abundance and harmony with nature contribute to our well-being. The virtuous Ṛbhus , with their skill and benevolence, are called upon to bring felicity into our lives, emphasizing the value of virtuous actions. Lastly, the prayer recognizes the role of our ancestors in promoting our happiness, particularly during seasons of worship, highlighting the significance of ancestral blessings and the continuity of happiness across generations. This essay will explore the deeper meanings embedded within this prayer, elucidating how the pursuit of truth and the blessings of various aspects of existence contribute to our ultimate happiness.

The Significance of Truth in Happiness

The opening line of the prayer emphasizes the importance of the “master of truth” in the pursuit of happiness. In Vedic philosophy, truth is not merely a factual representation of reality but also a higher spiritual principle. The pursuit of truth is seen as a transformative journey that brings about inner harmony and contentment. By invoking the master of truth, the prayer seeks their benevolence and guidance, acknowledging their role in aligning individuals with the ultimate source of happiness.

Harmonizing with Nature and Abundance

The subsequent lines of the prayer invoke horses and cattle, symbolizing the abundant blessings of nature and material prosperity. In the Vedic civilization, horses and cattle were essential for transportation, sustenance, and wealth. By invoking these symbols, the prayer recognizes the interdependence between humanity and the natural world. It signifies that a harmonious relationship with nature and the recognition of its abundance contribute to our overall happiness and well-being.

Virtuous Actions and Divine Intervention

The prayer further calls upon the virtuous and dexterous Ṛbhus, celestial beings associated with craftsmanship, creativity, and divine benevolence. The invocation of the Ṛbhus highlights the importance of personal effort, skill, and virtuous actions in the pursuit of happiness. It implies that happiness is not solely dependent on external factors but also on individual dedication and ethical conduct. By seeking the blessings of the Ṛbhus, the prayer acknowledges the role of divine intervention in enhancing felicity and fostering a harmonious and prosperous life.

Ancestral Blessings and the Continuity of Happiness

The final line of the prayer highlights the role of the progenitors in promoting happiness during the seasons of worship. Ancestral worship was a significant aspect of Vedic culture, with the belief that ancestors continue to influence and bless the lives of their descendants. By seeking the blessings of the progenitors, the prayer emphasizes the importance of ancestral connections and the continuity of blessings throughout generations. It underscores the idea that happiness is not merely an individual pursuit but is also shaped by the accumulated wisdom and blessings of those who came before us.

Conclusion

In conclusion, the timeless wisdom embedded within this ancient Vedic prayer holds remarkable relevance in our modern lives, offering guidance to navigate the complexities we encounter. Embracing truth and authenticity allows us to find clarity amidst the confusion and make decisions that align with our deepest values, leading to a genuine and fulfilling sense of happiness.

In our fast-paced and technology-driven world, taking a moment to reconnect with nature and appreciate its abundant beauty serves as a grounding force, restoring balance and bringing us a profound sense of peace amidst the hustle and bustle of life. By cultivating kindness, compassion, and integrity—the very qualities embodied by the virtuous Ṛbhus—we can build stronger and more meaningful relationships, fostering a supportive and harmonious social fabric that nurtures our well-being.

Lastly, recognizing and honouring our ancestral connections provides us with a sense of identity and purpose, guiding us through the challenges of modern life. Drawing inspiration from the wisdom and traditions passed down by our ancestors, we gain strength and gratitude, understanding our place in the vast tapestry of time. By incorporating these teachings into our lives, we embark on a transformative journey towards happiness, navigating the complexities of the modern world with grace and resilience, and finding fulfilment in the simplest yet profound aspects of our existence.

History- a befitting catalyst in bringing harmony!

#Wellnessmatters #history

History is a powerful tool to realize one’s well-being, more than just a subject of dates and places. Prof. Sheik Ali signifies History as the record of unique events in the life of mankind, is the stir and vibration of life. 

Its significant to know who, what, where and when but its pertinent to understand why and how, from the events of History. Unfortunately, the idea of learning history is often misrepresented by many learned people including Hegel (Ali, 1978), who quotes the only lesson we learn from history is that it has no lesson to offer. Another instance of defaming history is of Frederick the Great, a German military campaigner who often indicated an order- ‘Bring me my liar’, whenever he felt like reading history.

We find many statements admitting and rejecting history as a whole or part. But as individuals, we are often surrounded by our history, the past events of our own lives. Some of it bring happiness, some bring glory while some even pushes us into a greater grief. It is we, who should take care of the events we wish to recall. Sometimes, forgetfulness stands a boon. This applies to the subject of history too. 

Let’s understand the society we were, and bring good changes to the unhealthy behavior of humans. If we can manage being better than our ancestors, it will be a value addition to having read history. Else at least shall we learn, instead of passing criticisms and sharing hatred which has unfortunately been the diet of our generation. History is noteworthy to all of us in order to learn and keeping holistically well too, be it ours or our society’s. Before I forget, my teacher had narrated a story of a little bird which carried a drop of water in its mouth to extinguish the forest-fire for hours together. 

Let us be the little bird in the society to convey history for better. If the events represented hatred, let us ignite the knowledge with goodness and spread the kind virtues. If the events brought glory to humanity, let us glorify it. If the events brought happiness to humanity, let us spread it across.  

Let us be the catalysts of spreading history for awareness and stop heatedness and criticisms. Let us be that little bird of extinguishing the heat of hate in the society, by learning from the historical events. It will consequently take us far in the path of humanity. And there lies our wellness! 

History matters and so does our wellness. 

Scale of Values

Each one of us will definitely have a value system for ourselves, framed either on the basis of life’s experiences or thoughtfulness cultivated over a period of time. When I first encountered the term "scale of values" in an article of Shri. Navarathna Ramarao, it so occurred to me that- “such a mesmerizing terminology”. He explains it as- if Govinda has a rupee in his hand, he can buy an instrument from it, or a book, or a chocolate, a dress or can invest on an orphanage and, etcetera. It is from which distribution of that money, he gets maximum satisfaction, he does it. Or what best he finds among the rest he does it. Similarly, our scale of values is accorded.

Now looking at this expression I started observing my scale of values among relationships. Its just wondering. Our scale of values has typically awarded great friends and relatives from time to time and proportionately has taken away the closeness of few over a period of time and has bestowed another set of close ones. Ultimately the life needs companionship in different forms. After all man is a social animal.

But why does this scale of values in life change from time to time.

• 1.    Because we stop feeding relationships?

• 2.     Because we happen to migrate from a social life to economic life as we grow?

• 3.     Because of our experiences with a particular relationship?

• 4.     Because we happen to turn inward?

• 5.     Because we expect more?

• 6.     Because ………………

x

And several other reasons. Whatever be it the reasons, but it just happens invitingly or just without notice. While we are born, we are purest form of souls, as we grow up, we develop a set of values which brings in a lot more changes to our lives. We end up thinking too much about the situation, people etcetera so much so that we sometimes not only spoil relationships but our values and physical health too. Probably I should mention this here, and this remains a good solution which I read in my teacher Vid. Jagadisha sharma’s series –

akAnDa-pAta-jAtAnAm|

ArdrANAm marma-BEdinAm||

Which means- Suddenly an accident occurs, it just shakes the whole life, uncompromising pain surrounds, what is the solution? JUST LEAVE THAT THOUGHT BEHIND. DON’T THINK OF IT AT ALL.

This might sound overwhelming, but it is a fact. It truly works.

The idea of such scale of values itself is fascinating and interestingly it has not been identical. It is sometimes puzzling too to see my ethics sound unethical to another person. However, that’s a healthier moment to opt kindness amongst it or just leave the thought itself behind, so as to not conclude any value out of it. Still, identifying those values and observing it to perceive kind ones will lead to a good life. Practicing this method will certainly prepare us to well-being. Just like the rains; when it pours, the water in its purest form goes through several good elements as well as the toxic ones. It is up to us, for what we breathe in, what scale of values we develop over a period of time.

 

Know"how"!

I wonder how? 

Criticism and leftism changed its attire totally. The "buddhijeevigalu" on my social media list are so secular to wish eid, Christmas and other festivals to all of us. Very appreciative task,no doubt. It's wonderful to be so, an ideal society can be formed when we wish each other on such fantastic festivals.

 Culture creates civilization.

But?

Few don't seem to enjoy and wish same for our festivals too. Right from yugadi to sankranti!!!! 

A Hindu doesn't enjoy his own festival!!!! Not just it but passes critical statements against their own festivals. That sounds wierd.

The goodness of saying let your year be filled with sweet and sour on yugadi! ( Ideologically- only when we face difficulty the happiness will have meaning)

The goodness of saying "eLLu Bella tindu olle mAthadi(have till and jaggery and speak good)".

The joy of visiting 21 homes to see lord Ganesh, binds us so much together. 

The merriness in distributing lemon juice and kosambari on sriramanavami.

Wah!!!

Each festival has its own glory. 

And how can one criticize? 

To our amazement, there was another forward circulated on social media- to construct more hospitals than temples. Wow! How merciless. 

Illness is temporary but hunger.... ??????

Hindu temples are not just temples. We believe tulsi theertha can solve our Physical illness, we believe doing pradakshina to god is a good exercise, we believe feeding people is the greatest possible karma. 

Potentially this was altered by few and miscommunicated to many and several misunderstood it. We did not live in past, so we do not know what was it like in the previous era of societal set-up. There are 100s of books which show negation over hindu dharma but there are 1000s which say positives. Let's live in present, embracing the goodness of Dharma. 

To believe or not is personal choice but to speak ill about temples which serve food to 1000s and lakhs- is it fair enough? 

One can watch it in India's mega kitchen series. How temples serve food! 

Shirdi

Dharmasthala

And many...

So now can it be compared? 

Between hospitals and temples? 

Coming back, dharma is left to people's choice. To idealise it or not is left to individuals' mindset. 

My Hindu dharma taught me to respect humanity ( vasudhaiva Kutumbakam). That is total secularism. It helped me pray - lokah samasthah sukino bhavantu. And I am proud I am born and brought up in such a divine culture. 

No doubt, every dharma has different dimensions, it is upto us whether we take it from the right source or from such gangs of "buddhijeevigalu" who have known it half. When dharma flows in right direction people behave right, but when there's illusions added to it midway negation develops and spreads. 

Take aways : 

1. It is ok even if you don't follow your dharma, but your fellow countrymen does. Atleast have respect for their sake. 

2. IMPORTANTLY, Know full before criticizing. Read information from sources directly.

🙏

Happy Sri Rama navami! let's stay safe!

Quarantine is that one word which has been trending all through the go. The alarming calls given on various media platforms, is about it. I was once amazed to hear my "friend in maid" saying, "akka naaLe inda baralla. Mane Quarantinu ( sister I will not come from tomorrow, should be home quarantined). The usage of a foreign word as ours, always astonishes me like nothing else. A pun which says:

Kannada + English = Kanglish

However, in no time I realise, the seriousness of the situation is more significant than the amazement. 

While I sat at home feeling doing nothing, a news came in saying the celebrities are stuck home, couldn't able to attend their TV shoots. And the bulletin beneath the visual said- "doctors are striving hard to save Covid-19 patients". Whom are we celebrating? Who should be celebrated? 

Doctors, nurses, news reporters, the civilians....? 

Or 

Who?? 

On the other hand, it goes to the heart of mystery, thinking over and seeing people dying. The media is a juggernaut, building a great time of awareness trying hard to make people sit at home to watch them and bring reality into our eyes, trying to hit hard with an emotional stick. Just to make us sit home. Our leader followed by our representatives are begging hard to stay home. 

What is striking us away, out of house? 

1. Someone doesn't like to sit at home.

2. Someone wants to sit at home, but circumstances are not allowing him to. 

3. Someone should be quarantined, but that person intends to spread infection (these are the dangerous creatures).

4. Someone doesn't want to sit at home because he/she hates Prime minister, and because our Prime minister made the announcement.

5. Someone wants to politicise the ocassion, to attain sadistic pleasure.

6. Someone is not aware of the gravity of the situation.

The list goes on for various reasons. 

Great! We have a list of reasons. But how to resolve this situation?

Once let's close our eyes on this auspicious day of Sriramanavami and remember Lord Rama. 

Lord Rama was one person who strived all his life, just to keep up promises. The best part of his personality is, he was composed inspite of the hardship , not for a day or two but throughout his life( saHtu nityaM praShAntaathma). 

Isolating himself to benefit his kingdom and uplift dharma, and run in the path of it: never perplexed, never deteriorated, but stood a stalwart, he was Rama. Just two people around and none to resolve his mind but himself, caring for the two and all, who came with him to be with him at any point of life: he was Rama. His ethics is to be revered always. He kept himself strong during his journey in the forest, the toughest period of isolation. 

But us? 

It takes enormous time to discuss the presence of his persona and significance of his existence in this land. But one thing we need to heed at this point of quarantine period is- "the tranquility of SriRama". 

Being on the same land that he was born, how can we not follow him? Isn't it the time to think? Instead of complaining and compelling ourselves to turn-away from the isolation call. Let us remember him for his strong mind, let us remember his toughness to face difficulty of isolation, let us remember his perseverance to help society, let us remember him, for he alone is the pinnacle of personality. 

Though we cannot match him, for he was the greatest soul; we can atleast try to follow his footsteps. 

He isolated to establish dHarma, let us isolate to help ourselves and our loved ones. Let's stay home, let's be safe.

 It's time to rebuild our conscious and process right thoughts. Let's get inside. 

raame chittalayaH sadaa bhavatu me bho raama maamuddhara| 🙏

Special thanks to Mr. Ananth Ravi, my uncle for motivating me to remember an ideal soul and write his significance at this point of our lives.