Scale of Values

Each one of us will definitely have a value system for ourselves, framed either on the basis of life’s experiences or thoughtfulness cultivated over a period of time. When I first encountered the term "scale of values" in an article of Shri. Navarathna Ramarao, it so occurred to me that- “such a mesmerizing terminology”. He explains it as- if Govinda has a rupee in his hand, he can buy an instrument from it, or a book, or a chocolate, a dress or can invest on an orphanage and, etcetera. It is from which distribution of that money, he gets maximum satisfaction, he does it. Or what best he finds among the rest he does it. Similarly, our scale of values is accorded.

Now looking at this expression I started observing my scale of values among relationships. Its just wondering. Our scale of values has typically awarded great friends and relatives from time to time and proportionately has taken away the closeness of few over a period of time and has bestowed another set of close ones. Ultimately the life needs companionship in different forms. After all man is a social animal.

But why does this scale of values in life change from time to time.

• 1.    Because we stop feeding relationships?

• 2.     Because we happen to migrate from a social life to economic life as we grow?

• 3.     Because of our experiences with a particular relationship?

• 4.     Because we happen to turn inward?

• 5.     Because we expect more?

• 6.     Because ………………

x

And several other reasons. Whatever be it the reasons, but it just happens invitingly or just without notice. While we are born, we are purest form of souls, as we grow up, we develop a set of values which brings in a lot more changes to our lives. We end up thinking too much about the situation, people etcetera so much so that we sometimes not only spoil relationships but our values and physical health too. Probably I should mention this here, and this remains a good solution which I read in my teacher Vid. Jagadisha sharma’s series –

akAnDa-pAta-jAtAnAm|

ArdrANAm marma-BEdinAm||

Which means- Suddenly an accident occurs, it just shakes the whole life, uncompromising pain surrounds, what is the solution? JUST LEAVE THAT THOUGHT BEHIND. DON’T THINK OF IT AT ALL.

This might sound overwhelming, but it is a fact. It truly works.

The idea of such scale of values itself is fascinating and interestingly it has not been identical. It is sometimes puzzling too to see my ethics sound unethical to another person. However, that’s a healthier moment to opt kindness amongst it or just leave the thought itself behind, so as to not conclude any value out of it. Still, identifying those values and observing it to perceive kind ones will lead to a good life. Practicing this method will certainly prepare us to well-being. Just like the rains; when it pours, the water in its purest form goes through several good elements as well as the toxic ones. It is up to us, for what we breathe in, what scale of values we develop over a period of time.