Each
one of us will definitely have a value system for ourselves, framed either on
the basis of life’s experiences or thoughtfulness cultivated over a period of
time. When I first encountered the term "scale of values" in an article
of Shri. Navarathna Ramarao, it so occurred to me that- “such a mesmerizing terminology”. He explains it as- if Govinda has a rupee in his hand, he can buy
an instrument from it, or a book, or a chocolate, a dress or can invest on an
orphanage and, etcetera. It is from which distribution of that money, he gets
maximum satisfaction, he does it. Or what best he finds among the rest he does
it. Similarly, our scale of values is accorded.
Now
looking at this expression I started observing my scale of values among
relationships. Its just wondering. Our scale of values has typically awarded
great friends and relatives from time to time and proportionately has taken
away the closeness of few over a period of time and has bestowed another set of
close ones. Ultimately the life needs companionship in different forms. After
all man is a social animal.
But
why does this scale of values in life change from time to time.
- 1. Because we stop feeding
relationships?
- 2. Because we happen to
migrate from a social life to economic life as we grow?
- 3. Because of our
experiences with a particular relationship?
- 4. Because we happen to turn
inward?
- 5. Because we expect more?
- 6. Because ………………
x
And
several other reasons. Whatever be it the reasons, but it just happens invitingly
or just without notice. While we are born, we are purest form of souls, as we
grow up, we develop a set of values which brings in a lot more changes to our
lives. We end up thinking too much about the situation, people etcetera so much
so that we sometimes not only spoil relationships but our values and physical
health too. Probably I should mention this here, and this remains a good solution
which I read in my teacher Vid. Jagadisha sharma’s series –
akAnDa-pAta-jAtAnAm|
ArdrANAm
marma-BEdinAm||
Which
means- Suddenly an accident occurs, it just shakes the whole life,
uncompromising pain surrounds, what is the solution? JUST LEAVE THAT THOUGHT
BEHIND. DON’T THINK OF IT AT ALL.
This
might sound overwhelming, but it is a fact. It truly works. 
The
idea of such scale of values itself is fascinating and interestingly it has not
been identical. It is sometimes puzzling too to see my ethics sound unethical
to another person. However, that’s a healthier moment to opt kindness amongst
it or just leave the thought itself behind, so as to not conclude any value out
of it. Still, identifying those values and observing it to perceive kind ones
will lead to a good life. Practicing this method will certainly prepare us to
well-being. Just like the rains; when it pours, the water in its purest form
goes through several good elements as well as the toxic ones. It is up to us,
for what we breathe in, what scale of values we develop over a period of time.
